Life becomes Better when we challenge our FEARS.

F-E-A-R has two meaning

                “Forget Everything and Run”

                                 OR

                “Face Everything and Rise” 

We are always in control of the things we fear. It might be the people or a particular situation which we are feared off. We can be feared of anything, it might be height or water or dark or insect. It can be anything.

FEAR is like a monster, whenever we fear of something we are actually feeding that monster and making it strong.

Whenever we avoid a situation which we are feared off, the monster grows bigger and bigger. So it is very important to take some kind of steps to show it to FEAR that we are also strong.

This is why Mark Twain has said: “Do the thing you fear the most and the death of FEAR is certain”. When we face the fear, it increases our confidence level by many folds and when we fear then it kills our confidence.

Here are some of the way I increase my confidence. Most of the time it is by doing things that I have never done before.

Bungee jumping:

River Rafting:

I want to end this post with a beautiful story.

One of the biggest fear we all have is the fear of death.

One day a young man asked his Master, “I fear death. How can I get rid of this fear?”

“Tell me,” the old man answered, “When you borrow money, are you afraid to give them later back?”

“Of course not,” the student answered with surprise, “but what does this have to do with my fear?”

The teacher bent down and took a handful of soil from the ground and continued, “You have received your body in debt with required return. And every bite of bread eaten by you, every sip of water drank by you increases that debt. You are made from dust on which you walk and the ground is your main creditor, constantly reminding you of this debt. It is pulling you down towards it. In the end, the ground will swallow you whole, without any remains.”

The old man threw the soil into the air, after attaining its fall, he finished, “No matter how high you rise, how long you are in the flight, you will still need to fall down. That is given. And to cope with the fear of this fall is very easy – stop thinking about yourself as the master of your body. Face the thought that you are just a tenant. And because you don’t know the length of your rent, remember that it can end at any second. We are all debtors, and our debts will certainly be recovered, no matter if we are afraid of it or not. So is there a point of being afraid?”

The fear of DEATH follows from the fear of LIFE. A person who lives fully is prepared to die any time.
So let’s not waste our time thinking about the death. Instead, let us live each moment of our life fully.

More about conquering your fear in How To Win Your Day - Chapter 6. 

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SOLO trip

"When was the last time you went on a SOLO trip?"

SOLO trip - A vacation where you pack your bag and just start out alone without waiting for others.I am on my first solo trip, and I am in the YOGA capital of the world. Yes you are right, I am in Rishikesh from last 25 days.

 

Learning yoga, experiencing India's highest bungee jumping and Best River rafting and lot more. Keeping my plans open.

"I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.” – Oscar Wilde

Why do we have to go for a SOLO trip? Here is what I have experienced.

1. The responsibility of all decisions is yours - Yes, you have to take care everything deciding where to go, how to go there, where to stay, what to do etc. By doing this you will realize your true potential.

                                       

2. Less complaints - When you are alone who will you complain to, by saying this is not good, I am not used to such food, I don't like this etc. You will be completely on our own. This helps us to take full control of our life. If something good happens it’s your responsibility and if something goes wrong that's fine you can make it right. Less complaining leads to less blaming. Overall this starts cleaning us from the inside.

3. Know yourself - This is where you get to know yourself. When you spend time alone you become good friend to yourself, which is very important nowadays when we are surrounded by lot of distractions.

 

4. Make new friends - Making new friends is an art. Not everyone can go anywhere and make new friends. We always take a long time to make new friends or even just to talk to strangers. But on a solo trip strangers will be your guide. And sometimes these new friends can give your life a new direction to or change your perspective towards life.

 

5. Trust - Most of us have a deficiency of trust. We always feel doubts when a new person comes and starts talking to us nicely.

Yes, I know the situation outside has made us think like that. But somewhere I feel when you start doubting like that the same habit will be carried forward to our loved one. After some time you will start getting doubts about them too. But when you are on solo trip like this you do not have any option other than to trust the strangers. And strangers become your best friends. Yes, you may encounter couple of people who may mislead you. But that should not stop you from going on trips like this.

6. Understand life - When you go to different places, you will get to know the actually situation of the society and trust me you will definitely feel like “Oh GOD!! I am really the blessed one” Thereafter your perspective towards life changes and contentment takes place of complaints.

 

At the end of your trip you will get to know how beautiful the world is and see that it’s not as bad as we think it is. The world is filled with good people. We should just have the right perspective to see.

I look forward for your first solo trip experience.

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